The Key to a Mutually-Selfless Relationship!

Isn't it ironic how we tend to focus on insignificant bumps in the road while deliberately overlooking some of life's most paramount fortunes and blessings? Sometimes when life gets too comfortable we strive to focus on unimportant incidents that are nothing but distractions. Why do we always try to dramatize our lives just as soon as we experience some peace for days at a time? I honestly think it's a dichotomy! Life wouldn't be life without a little drama once in a while, and while it's normal to occasionally overreact, it should't become habitual. But, the obvious irony in all this is that a little drama brings people closer together and highlights aspects of a given relationship that may possibly need to be addressed. Yes, some so-called insignificant bumps in the road may be nothing and others may be potentially threatening in the grand scheme of things. Life is so relative that one cannot discuss topics while strictly compartmentalizing the significant and insignificant. But, if disagreements become prevalent, one has to be wise enough to realize the difference between mere distractions and  potentially destructive occurrences. Bringing out the best in any relationship is consuming in every possible way, be it a romantic relationship, one between friends or a familial one. The key is to never underestimate even the most allegedly trivial situations because what may be unworthy to you may just be a deal-breaker to somebody else. As a Sociologist who has also repeatedly been in such situations, I would advise the following course of action to further prevent a chaotic outcome: 

1. Despite one's immediate reaction, which is almost always an emotional one, we should revisit the whole situation while in a calmer state of mind. Emotions are proven to cloud our judgement especially considering our belief in our ultimate flawlessness. 

2. Thoroughly listen to the opposing viewpoint. If we listen as much as we talk we wouldn't experience as many misunderstandings. Listening with an open mind effectively creates a better understanding of the other and miraculously brings people closer. 

3. Put yourself in other people's shoes. The way we perceive ourselves and others is purely subjective. Sometimes we take people's circumstances for granted and tailor them in a way that best suits our personal interests. Never separate anyone from their unique situation, and note that not everything other people go through is or should be about you. Ego-centricim is destructive so one should constantly strive to be more selfless and less selfish. 

4. Swallow your pride. After we occasionally overreact and think we've justifiably won the battle, it's sometimes difficult to step up to the plate and apologize. People assume that apologizing is a sign of weakness but the irony is that it doesn't just make us stronger, but wiser. 

5. Learn from previous mistakes. Learning from former struggles doesn't mean apologizing while bypassing the possible significance of such a battle. Handling the situation differently in the future (should it happen again) is the key to ultimately mending a relationship and creating long-lasting respect and contentment.